A very good morning to all my readers,
Are you willing to commit yourself fully with discovering the most intimate aspects of your life?
Are you ready and excited to start your self-discovery journey?
If you are, lets crack on: You are about to discover who you really are, what you really want, what you are passionate about and where you want your life to hit next.
Firstly, we need to remember that when we set goals, we need to be in an inspiration and positive state and not desperation. To determine what we really want in life we need to start to identify who we are and what is important to us, what we stand for, what standards we hold for ourselves and what matters to us!
So you are about to discover your CORE VALUES!!! Yes I can confirm you did just read that!
You might be thinking at this point, what are core values?
Firstly, we need to define what is a value. Values are innate beliefs, an individual’s subconscious make-up – the strongest and deepest version of us and not what society and family dictate for us. The dictionary defines it as “beliefs of a person or social group in which they have an emotional investment (either for or against something)” and the businessdictionary.com adds: “Values exert major influence on the behaviour of an individual and serve as broad guidelines in all situations.”
How many times have you heard stories about people who followed a certain career path just because their family wanted them to do it? They spend a lot of time and money to match other people’s expectations to realise at the end that they are not happy and don’t want to really follow that career.
To internalise with this concept, please ask yourself the following questions.
Have you ever been in a situation and something is not going your way, you think of how you would like to act but you hold yourself back and cannot explain why?
Have you ever wondered why you consistently react to events in specific ways but cannot explain the reasons behind it?
Have you ever done something and it hasn’t ‘sat’ well with you afterwards?
A likely reason for you to have acted this way is because it didn’t agree with your Values.
But what are my values? The aim of this article is to guide you on how to identify your core values and understand the importance of them in your decision-making process.
Why is it important to know what our core values are?
By identifying what our core values are, it helps us to know where we stand and what are the reasons of taking certain decisions we make on a daily basis. Just think about it, we are essentially taking an aptitude test which will advise us on things we will excel in.
Have you ever wondered if there was a connection between the reasons why past successes had not been fulfilling?
Do you feel that you don’t fully know who you are and what you really want?
You may be one of those people who decided to take a certain career path and when you got there it was not what you thought it would be, because deep down it did not align with what you stand for – which are your core values. You could have lost sight to what is more important to you and ended up following the masses, working for survival to keep your head above the water…Can you identify yourself or someone that you know with the situation described above? It’s very common, isn’t it?
How can we discover what our core values are?
I will share with you a simple but very powerful exercise to enable us to discover what are our core values. Fortunately for me I was able to do this with someone else, for me this was Viv, and found by doing so it provided me with greater clarity. So find someone to help you with this. It works well if they want to find out their Values too.
Are you ready? So lets start.
Step 1. Ask yourself the following question over and over again.
What is important to me in life?
Step 2. List on your notebook at least 10 different values that are important to you. i.e. trust, honesty, friends, harmony, family, making a difference, etc.
Step 3. Put your listed values in order of importance from 1 to 10.
As you start ordering them you need to ask yourself for each value: is this one more important than the others in the list?
This is where having a friend comes in handy as you can’t cheat. Just wait and see, you will have a light bulb moment and will unlock the reasons for your past decisions. Please feel free to contact me if you would like any assistance in carrying out this exercise, I will be very honoured to play a part in helping you with your light bulb moment.
Was it easy to identify your core values? Be honest. For me I found it hard to accept some of them.
You have now listed your top values! Please treasure them, as they will define your choices and beliefs in life!
What we need to understand is that all of us will have different kinds of values, and this will be made apparent when you do this with your friends.
Can you now understand and see that people will behave differently based on their own values?
Do you realise now that often the cause of disagreements between people is based on holding different values?
The answer is obvious and knowing the reasons is powerful as you can now choose to make different decisions! We act and behave accordingly to what we classify as right. This is our own personal opinion!!!
Now that we have discovered our core values and what we stand for, we might ask:
What are the benefits of it?
Les has agreed to share her own experience with us.
“The importance of understanding my own values has led to greater self-clarity and consciousness in my actions and as a result contributed to a positive change in my results and life.
By identifying my values, I began to understand my foundations and what I consider important in every facet of my life. I could begin to explain why I acted in certain ways in specific circumstances. I know now I could not have acted any differently in past situations as it would have been incongruent with my values.
Perhaps the best way to illustrate this is to provide an example. Having completed this exercise, I identified one of my highest values to be ‘Harmony’. Harmony means many things to many people but for me looking back in hindsight, I unconsciously defined it as “Going with the flow”. Going with the flow was great at times however it also took me to many colourful places, some I’d rather forget, I can assure you!
Knowing now that harmony is a key value of mine, I have redefined it to support me. Now, I consciously choose how I want my value, “harmony,” to play out. It is a conscious decision rather than an unconscious reaction. And that is key. Powerful, isn’t it?”
Thanks Les, I could have not use better words than you did!!!
How can we use this knowledge?
We may use it to choose our business partner, our ideal job, our hobbies, our passions, etc. the list can be infinite and the best thing is that we now can make choices and we will not have to fight internally as our choices will match with who we really are deep inside us!
How do you think your core values affect your life?
I want you take some time to ponder about this important question…Don’t cheat as you are only fooling yourself!
Values are the embodiment of what you stand for and they are the basis of your decision-making and consequently for your behaviour and actions guiding your life.
Les’s comment from her personal experience was achieved by realising the importance of her values and its effect on her actions. You can to, and will be able to consciously choose the actions that support your goals. By identifying your values and understanding who you are, you will have the confidence knowing that should you go off course again, you will be able to steer yourself back on track from a standpoint of clarity and conviction.
I can guarantee that this exercise is very powerful. Everyone I have done this exercise with has had a light bulb moment. This includes myself when I did it with my coach a couple of years ago. To be honest, after it, I made one of the most important decisions of my life. Thankfully my life changed for the better day after day!!! I am a living proof of the power of this exercise!!!
Don’t take yourself for granted thinking that you don’t need to know or that is not important to you – you will be regretting it later on in life. People don’t regret what they have done in life but they regret what opportunities they have missed out as they never made a choice to take a chance to make a lifetime change in their life!!! We want to be bold and above all we don’t want to have regrets if we have the opportunity to make wise choices now to make changes in our lives. I hope you are in full agreement with me.
Please NOW make the time for yourself to do this exercise and I can guarantee that you will be having a light bulb moment. Additionally take the time to ponder on how your core values have affected your past decisions and most importantly how can they now support your future choices!
To have a breakthrough, to radically improve your results and quality of your life, you have to make CHANGES and you owe it only to yourself!
No changes, no progress…not to be funny but this is the reality, guys and girls if you want to see results in your life!
Just remember that at least three things you can’t recover in life:
The word after it’s said, the time after it’s wasted and the chance after it’s missed!
Please take inspiration from B. Disraeli, “The secret of success is to be ready when your opportunity comes!” You can do this by making the wise choices to change your life!
With the series of articles recently published, now you have the complete formula to your success! Now Make it Happen!
Thanks again to Les for contributing to the success of this article and please keep sharing your successes and experiences with me!
Wish you all the best to your self-discovery and to your succcess to making it happen!
Les and Viv