Ready to find your Light Bulb Moment?

A very good morning to all my readers,

Today, I want to start my article by send out a BIG thanks too all of you. I have been really touched by your experiences that you have sent to me by email. I would also like to thank you for looking at my close friend’s blog last week (the link is at the bottom of my last article “The 3 cs in succcess”). Although he writes to inspire financial market traders much of his blog is applicable to life in general, he was very pleased and impressed with the number of hits. Please keep reading and sharing it with others…
Last week we revealed the 3 Cs to success, these are choices, chances and changes. You might agree with me that the most important one is “Choices” as they define our successes, achievements and our quality of life. This week’s article will examine the missing puzzle to your success. It will reveal what is the drive that makes us take any choice in life!!! Be ready for a  very deep discovery about YOURSELF: you are about to discern the most important aspects of your life…I want to personally thank my friend Les as she was willing to co-write this article with me with a very tight deadline and to share her own experience with all of us! You will know what I am talking about later and I am pretty sure that you will appreciate my friends input too!!! Lets get started…

Are you willing to commit yourself fully with discovering the most intimate aspects of your life?

Are you ready and excited to start your self-discovery journey?

If you are, lets crack on: You are about to discover who you really are, what you really want, what you are passionate about and where you want your life to hit next.

Firstly, we need to remember that when we set goals, we need to be in an inspiration and positive state and not desperation. To determine what we really want in life we need to start to identify who we are and what is important to us, what we stand for, what standards we hold for ourselves and what matters to us!

So you are about to discover your CORE VALUES!!! Yes I can confirm you did just read that!

You might be thinking at this point, what are core values?

Firstly, we need to define what is a value. Values are innate beliefs, an individual’s subconscious make-up – the strongest and deepest version of us and not what society and family dictate for us. The dictionary defines it as “beliefs of a person or social group in which they have an emotional investment (either for or against something)” and the adds: “Values exert major influence on the behaviour of an individual and serve as broad guidelines in all situations.”

How many times have you heard stories about people who followed a certain career path just because their family wanted them to do it? They spend a lot of time and money to match other people’s expectations to realise at the end that they are not happy and don’t want to really follow that career.

To internalise with this concept, please ask yourself the following questions.

Have you ever been in a situation and something is not going your way, you think of how you would like to act but you hold yourself back and cannot explain why?

Have you ever wondered why you consistently react to events in specific ways but cannot explain the reasons behind it?

Have you ever done something and it hasn’t ‘sat’ well with you afterwards?

A likely reason for you to have acted this way is because it didn’t agree with your Values.

But what are my values?  The aim of this article is to guide you on how to identify your core values and understand the importance of them in your decision-making process.

Why is it important to know what our core values are?

By identifying what our core values are, it helps us to know where we stand and what are the reasons of taking certain decisions we make on a daily basis.  Just think about it, we are essentially taking an aptitude test which will advise us on things we will excel in.

Have you ever wondered if there was a connection between the reasons why past successes had not been fulfilling?

Do you feel that you don’t fully know who you are and what you really want?

You may be one of those people who decided to take a certain career path and when you got there it was not what you thought it would be, because deep down it did not align with what you stand for – which are your core values. You could have lost sight to what is more important to you and ended up following the masses, working for survival to keep your head above the water…Can you identify yourself or someone that you know with the situation described above? It’s very common, isn’t it?

How can we discover what our core values are?

I will share with you a simple but very powerful exercise to enable us to discover what are our core values. Fortunately for me I was able to do this with someone else, for me this was Viv, and found by doing so it provided me with greater clarity.  So find someone to help you with this. It works well if they want to find out their Values too.

Are you ready? So lets start.

Step 1Ask yourself the following question over and over again.

What is important to me in life?

Step 2List on your notebook at least 10 different values that are important to you. i.e. trust, honesty, friends, harmony, family, making a difference, etc.

Step 3Put your listed values in order of importance from 1 to 10.

As you start ordering them you need to ask yourself for each value: is this one more important than the others in the list?

This is where having a friend comes in handy as you can’t cheat. Just wait and see, you will have a light bulb moment and will unlock the reasons for your past decisions. Please feel free to contact me if you would like any assistance in carrying out this exercise, I will be very honoured to play a part in helping you with your light bulb moment.

Was it easy to identify your core values? Be honest. For me I found it hard to accept some of them.

You have now listed your top values! Please treasure them, as they will define your choices and beliefs in life!

What we need to understand is that all of us will have different kinds of values, and this will be made apparent when you do this with your friends.

Can you now understand and see that people will behave differently based on their own values?

Do you realise now that often the cause of disagreements between people is based on holding different values?

The answer is obvious and knowing the reasons is powerful as you can now choose to make different decisions! We act and behave accordingly to what we classify as right. This is our own personal opinion!!!

Now that we have discovered our core values and what we stand for, we might ask:

What are the benefits of it?

Les has agreed to share her own experience with us.

“The importance of understanding my own values has led to greater self-clarity and consciousness in my actions and as a result contributed to a positive change in my results and life.

By identifying my values, I began to understand my foundations and what I consider important in every facet of my life.  I could begin to explain why I acted in certain ways in specific circumstances.   I know now I could not have acted any differently in past situations as it would have been incongruent with my values.   

Perhaps the best way to illustrate this is to provide an example.  Having completed this exercise, I identified one of my highest values to be ‘Harmony’.  Harmony means many things to many people but for me looking back in hindsight, I unconsciously defined it as “Going with the flow”.  Going with the flow was great at times however it also took me to many colourful places, some I’d rather forget, I can assure you!

Knowing now that harmony is a key value of mine, I have redefined it to support me.  Now, I consciously choose how I want my value, “harmony,” to play out.  It is a conscious decision rather than an unconscious reaction.  And that is key. Powerful, isn’t it?”

Thanks Les, I could have not use better words than you did!!!

How can we use this knowledge?

We may use it to choose our business partner, our ideal job, our hobbies, our passions, etc. the list can be infinite and the best thing is that we now can make choices and we will not have to fight internally as our choices will match with who we really are deep inside us!

How do you think your core values affect your life?

I want you take some time to ponder about this important question…Don’t cheat as you are only fooling yourself!

Values are the embodiment of what you stand for and they are the basis of your decision-making and consequently for your behaviour and actions guiding your life.

Les’s comment from her personal experience was achieved by realising the importance of her values and its effect on her actions. You can to, and will be able to consciously choose the actions that support your goals.  By identifying your values and understanding who you are, you  will have the confidence knowing that should you go off course again, you will be able to steer yourself back on track from a standpoint of clarity and conviction.

I can guarantee that this exercise is very powerful. Everyone I have done this exercise with has had a light bulb moment. This includes myself when I did it with my coach a couple of years ago. To be honest, after it, I made one of the most important decisions of my life. Thankfully my life changed for the better day after day!!! I am a living proof of the power of this exercise!!!

Don’t take yourself for granted thinking that you don’t need to know or that is not important to you – you will be regretting it later on in life. People don’t regret what they have done in life but they regret what opportunities they have missed out as they never made a choice to take a chance to make a lifetime change in their life!!! We want to be bold and above all we don’t want to have regrets if we have the opportunity to make wise choices now to make changes in our lives. I hope you are in full agreement with me.

Please NOW make the time for yourself to do this exercise and I can guarantee that you will be having a light bulb moment. Additionally take the time to ponder on how your core values have affected your past decisions and most importantly how can they now support your future choices!

To have a breakthrough, to radically improve your results and quality of your life, you have to make CHANGES and you owe it only to yourself!

No changes, no progress…not to be funny but this is the reality, guys and girls if you want to see results in your life!

Just remember that at least three things you can’t recover in life:

The word after it’s said, the time after it’s wasted and the chance after it’s missed!

Please take inspiration from B. Disraeli, “The secret of success is to be ready when your opportunity comes!” You can do this by making the wise choices to change your life!

With the series of articles recently published, now you have the complete formula to your success! Now Make it Happen!

Thanks again to Les for contributing to the success of this article and please keep sharing your successes and experiences with me!

Wish you all the best to your self-discovery and to your succcess to making it happen!

Les :-) and Viv :-)

The 3 C’s in SuCCCess!!!

A very warm greeting to all my readers’,

Hope my article finds you well!

In the last few weeks, I have stressed the importance of having clarity on who we are and what we want to be.

Today’s article has been inspired by a blog from a close friend of mine. Being an excellent financial market trader, he often delves into purpose, in particular what it means in our lives. I thought I would include his blog link a the bottom for those interested. Back on topic, he recently wrote a recommendation for me, I have to admit that its content came out of the blue…firstly it upset me. After reading it a few times I pondered on it, searching again and again for its meaning …. and then it hit me, I was swept off my feet. I want to personally thank my friend, and thought it would be a great message to share to my readers’.

From the moment I started understanding the message, I have gone into deep thought and started to explore the new dimensions it has been opening up to my life. Ok, so enough self indulgence let me give you some clarity…the more I think about it the more I realise that our life is based on the mindset we possess. It is how we respond to the daily challenges that life throws at us that determine our success. For example you might remember my article on the importance of mindset? I reflected on a personal experience of mine and how we can obtain success by simply choosing to learn from negative events. Today that experience came back to me clear as day. Thanks to the choices I made on that back then, plenty of opportunities have opened up to me. We need the 3 C’s to achieve success in lives.

What are the 3 C’s?

Choices, Chances and Changes…Are you surprised?

For some fun, why don’t you have a go at relating these three C’s together in a sentence…have a think…

This was my answer: You must make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change!

How do you feel about it?

I personally fully agree with it. Life is all about the choices that we make on a daily basis, nobody can force us to make decisions. It is really down to us – even the act of doing nothing is still a choice. Everything in life is about choices …. strange you be might thinking? It is actually the reality of the situation…everyday we hear about choosing wisely, friends, partners, relationships, etc.

What do you think are the reasons to make wise choices in life?

They determine our quality of life, achievements and successes…

Just remember that life is a series of choices. Just like in maths 1 + 1 = 2, our lives are just the same, we are the sum of our choices. Whilst some of them are made for us, for example we can’t choose when and where we’re born neither our family but we can make other choices in life such as whom our friends are, etc. Think about it.

As we progress from one stage life to another, we make choices that have far-reaching implications. We can think about life in many different phases.

First is the dependency phase, when we rely on others to take care of, to feed and to clothe us. Then, we move into the preparation phase where we are getting ready to do something with our life. Then, we move into the performance phases where we measure our achievements.

All the phases above are driven by choices that we make on a daily basis in our lives!!!

We also certainly have a choice of who we want to be and what we want to achieve in our lives based on our positive attitude and how we manage the negatives.

How can we have a positive attitude?

We may wonder, surely we can’t be positive all times right? Absolutely, that’s true we will only be self-eluding ourselves to think such a thing. I would love to share with you the technique that I use on a daily basis.

Each morning I wake up and I say to myself: Viv, today you have two choices. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. Then I make my choice. I’m certain you know me well enough that I choose to be in a good mood and most importantly I take action to support my decision. Everything time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaints or I can point out the positive side of life. Each time I choose to take the positive side of life.

I think you have got the gist that life is all about choices. Just think that when you cut away the junk, every situation is a choice. We have the power to choose how to react to situations. We choose how people will affect our mood.

I want to leave you with this final thought:

Any change and any loss does not make us victims.                                                   Others can shake, surprise or disappoint us.                                                                     But they can’t prevent us from moving on in our life.                                                           No matter where we are in life, no matter what our situation is, we can always do something.                                                                                                                          On  every turn of life, we will always have a choice                                                     and that choice can be our power!

What you need to ask to yourself is the following question:

What are the reasons of making the choices that you make?

Most choices are made out of fear – not need for achievement, not pride but fear.

One of the things that I would like you to do is to respond honestly to these two questions:

What are the important choices that I am making in my life?

What is the motive that drives each and every one of these choices?

Your honest answer to both questions will provide you with the clarity about what drives your choice decision process in your life. This knowledge is very powerful as you can now make a choice to keep it or to change it…

The bottom line is “It’s your choice how to live your life“, nobody can interfere with it unless you allow them to…

Remember the 3 C’s to your success in life, Choice – Chance and Change… You must make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change…and you have the power to do so!!!

I wish all of you to now have clarity in discovering what motives drive you to make your life’s choices in order to accomplish your achievements!!!

To your wise choices and succcess!!!

Viv :-)

As promised, here the link to my friend’s blog:

What is your Success Formula?

A very good afternoon to all my readers,

I hope you have found some benefits from reading and especially applying the strategies I have discussed in my last few articles. Personally I have and I feel that I have achieved a new more positive state.

It was in this new state the following powerful question came to mind:

What is the difference between those who succeed — who thrive mentally, emotionally, physically and financially, even in the most difficult of times — and those under the same circumstances would continue to suffer?

Most of you would agree with me that successful individuals take a different quality of action, thinking and emotion that guides their actions and gets them to follow through. They question how to get motivated. They feed their minds with the best-quality personal development products, tools, strategies, information and inspiration available. Most of all, they are hungry for success. They never STOP. They really want it, no matter how daunting, big or challenging the task, they will do what it takes to achieve it! Their focus is on how to create and maintain momentum. With that kind of drive, they will always succeed.

What do all these successful people have in common?

They all share an incredible passion for life, hunger and commitment to never settle for less than they can be. They want more: more for their families, their communities, themselves, and all those they have the privilege to touch. They are compelled to search out, find, and learn from the best.

To achieve real, lasting, powerful results – to completely transform the quality of your life, now and forever – you must adopt new ways of thinking, feeling and acting. You need to listen to new voices, you must ask new questions, you must put yourself into new states of thinking and feeling. You must take new actions, get new results, and thereby gain new perspectives. The process of how to get motivated and what to do with that motivation is based on the success cycle: potential, actions, results, beliefs and attitude.

Everyone has unlimited potential within themselves, but unless that potential is fed by the best beliefs, attitudes and resources, it remains untapped. Once you feed your mind and adopt new, empowering beliefs and attitudes, you will activate your potential for greater and greater results to come.

When you put that potential to the test by taking consistent, powerful action, you will watch your results grow exponentially, which in turn increases the positive and powerful beliefs and attitudes you hold about yourself and your ability to succeed. These new beliefs and attitudes will unleash even more of your potential, and begin to build incredible momentum. It will allow you to compress decades of effort into months, even days. Very soon you’ll find that the goals you considered merely dreams are now your daily reality.

Can you believe that?  Would you want to?

Now that we have discovered what the successful people have in common, we need to ask ourselves the following questions:

What is the difference that makes the difference in my life?

What is my Success Formula?

What are my rules for success?

Some of you may agree with me, that there are some commonalities to be successful and it is also true that all of us have something special and unique that can add to our own success in life.

To find out, let us do some visualisation. Think into the past and remember a time when you set a goal and succeeded and another time when you set a goal and failed.

Now answer the following questions.

What did you do differently?

What do you need to do differently to achieve success?

The answers to these two questions is special and unique to all of us…so take your time now and find out what is your Success Formula. This will be the qualities, skills and abilities that you have listed as answers, but remember this will only be the case if you have been honest with yourself!!!

If we want to achieve success in life we need to understand a couple of concepts.

Firstly, we will not be able to achieve our goals unless we act as if our cause is greater than our effect – the reasons that motivate us need to be stronger than the fear of the effect of it.

Secondly, the results need to be stronger than the excuses. If we always find excuses, we will never achieve anything in our lives, and I am sure that you have already experienced this before.

Thirdly, the most important concept is to take responsibility for the results obtained. I have already mentioned this concept in my previous article as it is very powerful – when we take 100% responsibility for achieving our outcomes and we are willing to do it all by ourselves, we don’t have to…we will find someone along the way who is willing to provide us with some assistance without actually asking them.

Believe me, I have experienced it many times in my life, especially recently!

Just remember the only benefit of not taking 100% responsibility is that we have always something or someone else to blame!

It’s up to you, you need to make a choice, blame someone else for not achieving the desired results or take full responsibility for the outcomes and get tangible results!!!

Before terminating this article, I would like to remind you that you should have answers for the two most important questions that I have published today; they will ensure that you know what is your Success Formula in your life and above all what are your rules for success, what is unique and special about yourself.

Once you know, what makes you successful, you can replicate it over and over again! This is how you can set yourself on a path to becoming a more successful person!

I promise you, that you won’t get disappointed, you’ll get more confident, be able to evaluate your results more effectively and find another dimension that will enrich your life ten times over!!!  

Just remember that “What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” – Henry David Thoreau

Wish you all the best in finding out what is your Success Formula in your life to move you forward in achieving your goals!!!

To your Self – Discovery & Success!

Viv :-)