10 Strategies to finish the year Successfully!

A warm greetings to all my readers,

Hope this article finds you well! :)

On the 21st of September, autumn officially started along with the 101 day count down to the end of the year…and as such to ensure I finish strong, on the 22nd of September I decided to enrol onto a 100 day challenge. As I knew that I needed some extra help, I got an accountability coach for myself to ensure that I completed all my goals for this year as I am falling behind at the moment! :)

What are the reasons of finishing the year successfully?

If you think about it, more than 265 days of this year are already gone. Time is ticking, so the key thing we need to do right now is to focus on our current year-to-date results. If you are at present below target as I am or unhappy with your individual year to-date performance, you must consider the remaining 100 days as a now-or-never opportunity to redeem yourself by finishing this year successfully.

What exactly do I mean by finishing successfully?

This is the same as the mentality a distance runner uses as they sprint to the finishing line, a salesperson who crushes the last quarter to exceed their annual quote and a football team closing the season with conviction to make the playoffs. These final days is when you’ve got to give it everything you’ve got. This will provide you with the motivation and justification to rise up while your competition is most likely winding down.

 

What specific steps or strategies can you deploy in order to secure a successful year-end finish?

I will share with you the 10 simple highly effective and empowering strategies to step up the quality and intensity of our efforts that I have been given during the 100 days challenge! By implementing these strategies, we will accelerate our performance, drive massive results and finish the year strong!

Let’s crack on then…

STRATEGY # 1 GET SERIOUS

With a finite period of time breathing down our neck, we have no choice but to get serious, set crystal clear goals, raise the bar, set up our game and embrace a take-no-prisoners attitude. We will make rapid progress towards our goals only after we decide to get serious about getting results. It’s not a secret that serious professionals play to win and always finish successfully.

STRATEGY # 2 START SAYING NO

This is going to be my hardest strategy to employ as ‘NO’ has never been part of my vocabulary so I have to learn how to say it…Apparently ‘NO’ is the most powerful word in our vocabulary as it’s the easiest word for setting a limit, holding firm to boundaries and being clear about what you will or will not do for these last days of the year. We will be more productive and effective once we recognise that learning to say ‘NO’ is liberating as it frees up our time and energy to focus on our key priorities and wildest ambitions. It increases the value of the things we can say ‘YES’ to. Success demands a short YES list and a long NO list, yet most people have that one reverse engineered

STRATEGY # 3 ACT BOLDLY

In a 100 day sprint, there’s no time for indecision, doubt, excuses, blaming or procrastination. We cannot allow any of these self-destructive behavioural traits to perpetuate. Our finest hour will not come from a weak, wimpy nor a half-hearted effort. Go big, go bold or go home!

STRATEGY # 4 SET CHALLENGING DEADLINES

We work our best under a self-determined or externally fixed deadline for achieving our goals. You may ask: What is the reason behind this? Well, it’s simple. Any task, project or goal takes as much time as we allow for it to take. By setting non-negotiable, challenging deadlines which drive us to deliver the results, we are virtually guaranteed big and consistent wins right through the close of the year.

STRATEGY # 5 CREATE A SENSE OF URGENCY

To achieve our goals and to finish the year successfully, we need a flame under our behind which ignites a performance explosion. We must take massive action every day and develop a sense of urgency and importance about what we are doing. Urgency to the extent that getting results and achieving our goals is a matter of life or death.

STRATEGY # 6 SPEED THINGS UP

The old rules no longer apply. It’s not the big that eats the small but it’s the fast that eats the slow. The key to rapid, ongoing and transformational results is to recognise the power of increasing the speed of everything we do. Make this our primary weapon for finishing the year successfully.

STRATEGY # 7 REFUSE TO GIVE UP

Those with the character to do what it takes to finish the year successfully tend not to allow the indignity of a poor year-to-date performance to keep them down. A comeback accepts disaster, laughs in its face and crawls to his feet again. When we are down or below target other people will write us off. Do not let them define you – maintain your dignity and refuse to give up! Keep going until you achieve your goals as the moment you’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens. Don’t give up!

STRATEGY # 8 BE PERSISTENT

By choosing to be persistent, we are demonstrating no abatement of severity, intensity, strength or peace nor are we softening or yielding in determination. Finishing the year successfully necessitates that we fight on with undying, relentless determination. The rewards for those who are unyielding in their pursuit of a successful finish far exceed the pain that must precede the victory. When you get to the point where anyone else would quit, don’t stop – keep going!

STRATEGY # 9 BE A DRIVEN PERSON

The goal of finishing the year successfully can only be achieved by driven people motivated by high expectations. We must become driven in what we expect from ourselves and in the demands we make on others. The only way to create big, bold, breakthrough year-end results is to take the less travelled road. Set goals and plans that are unreasonable – and go for it!

STRATEGY # 10 MAKE EVERYTHING COUNT

As we work towards the goal of finishing the year successfully, we must understand that there will never be a day that will not require drive, dedication, discipline, perseverance and accountability. Regardless of our year-to-date results, you and I know that no matter how good or bad they have been…we can always do better – much better and push our limits higher! :)

Each and every day provides us with the opportunity to get better, to stand out, to answer our call, to prove our greatness and demonstrate excellence to each and every turn. Therefore make sure everything you do counts, as it does! :)

Don’t give up on this year’s goal achievements, start NOW to apply the 10 strategies above and make every day count knowing that you CAN do it – it’s about effort. When you bring that effort every single day, that’s where transformation happens and that’s how change and results occur! J ‘It always seems impossible until it’s done.‘ – Nelson Mandela

To your successful achievements!

Viv :)

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Fitness, Olympics and Paralympics: How to Keep the Momentum Going

I hope my article finds you well :)

It’s about three weeks since the end of the Olympic and Paralympic Games. How do you feel? Some of us may feel sad as it was entertaining to watch them and at the same time motivating and inspiring. But the real questions to ask ourselves are:

What now then?

Have you been motivated and inspired to keep the Olympics and Paralympics momentum going?

If you are not sure about the meaning of the word momentum, here is the wonderfully “academic” dictionary definition, p = mv where the momentum (p) is the product of the mass (weight) and the velocity (speed) of an object. Hah! I am guessing that this is not the definition you were expecting. Well believe it or not the formula is actually applicable to the Olympics and Paralympics…

Let me explain.

In life to keep the momentum going, we can apply the same formula as following:

p (momentum) = m (drive) * v (speed = rate of change) where the momentum is given by the drive to achieve your goal multiplied by the rate of change from where you are now (A) to where you want to be (B). Therefore in order to have the greatest momentum you need to have a high amount of drive to achieve your goals, and ensure that you follow this up with the speed of your actions to move you from where you are now (A) to what you want to achieve (B) (goal/success).

The key is taking prompt actions whilst you are driven by your motivation!

To make it personal to you, think about when you attended a self-development course or seminar.  After it finished did you just carry on with your everyday life? You have learnt new techniques, skills and acquired more information to improve the quality of your life. However if you do not put any of these into practice you will not make any changes in your life.

The secret is to Take Action. This is the actual doing part and what I call the great pitfall where many dreams, goals and ambitions die. Anyone can start but very few finish. Many people can take action once, twice or may even keep going for a few months but eventually they die out. It frustrates me when I would enter a new challenge and I will see the competition leap out in front and get off to a faster and more successful start. Then I found the single discipline that gives me the extra edge to beat anybody at almost anything, and that’s CONSISTENCY.

A lot of people become enthusiastic about new goals or achievements, and they charge out of the gate in an explosion of activity—but their intensity and commitment quickly crackle. Meanwhile, those who begin the journey with less flash but a greater commitment to consistency eventually catch up to their flamboyant peers and leave them in the dust. Do what most people don’t: Stay consistent.

We will explore the concept of CONSISTENCY further in my next article, so stay tuned! J

I hope this article was not too much of a lecture and scientifically orientated. I really enjoyed writing it especially because it brought me back to my physics lectures in school. Those were the best times of my life!

‘Take a look at what you have. 
Think of all you did to get it.
Remember it takes only one second to lose everything so treasure it!’
~ Viv

So think about how much progress you have made so far and what you have done to achieve it…think about all the time and efforts spent doing exercises, running, sweating, etc. Think about what you have already sacrificed to get where you are, cakes, sweets, crisps, social events, etc…Was it worth it? It was for me and I am sure it was for you too! …Think also that you will lose all of your achievements, if you decide to give up now, please keep the momentum going, you owe it to yourself!

“You cannot strike fire from flint if you stop halfway” ~ Nichiren Daishonin

You know that you have the power and the control to do it! So, keep the momentum going to achieve your goals and you will be celebrating the body, the fitness level and the healthy lifestyle you have always dreamed of! It is possible and you have demonstrated this to be true over the past few months. With strong determination and dedication success will follow! After all, “It’s easier to wake up early and work out than it is to look in the mirror each day and not like what you see.” ~ Jayne Cox

 

So, what choice are you going to make? Will you see obstacles or opportunity? Will you give up or keep the momentum going?

……. and while you carefully make your life changing choice, think about this as a final question:

Why will you succeed?

‘I succeed because I am willing to do the things others are not. I will fight against the odds. I will sacrifice. I am not shackled by fear, insecurity or doubt. I feel those emotions — drink them in and then swallow them away to the blackness of hell. I am motivated by accomplishment, not pride. Pride consumes the weak — kills their heart from within. If I fall — I will get up. If I am beaten — I will return. I will never stop getting better. I will never give up –ever. This is why I succeed!’ – Unknown

Remember that nothing worth having comes easy, enjoy the process! Knowing that this takes time, just be committed to doing your best every day! So you need to keep your goals, your prospective and your eyes on your objective. Life is what you make itSituations are how you take it…‎”Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life.” 
– Herbert Otto

 

To keeping your Momentum going!

Viv :)

Fitness: Olympics & Paralympics: What is NOW your next step?

A warm greetings to all my readers, :)

I am certain that the Olympics and Paralympics have kept many of us busy watching attentively on TV or for the fortunate, in live events.

How do you feel about these past events?

I am sure that there will be a variety of feelings across the board regarding the Games. In fact, in my previous articles, I have written about both events. I can definitely summarise my own takeaways from each. The Olympics have provided me with the motivation to keep pushing me on with my health and fitness plan. The Paralympics on the other hand has inspired me to use all of my potential to achieve my goals. ­­Have they had the same influence on your life? I would love to read your own thoughts so let me know in the comments below.

Below are the links to my previous articles on these subjects in case you have missed to read any:

Fitness how much can you tell from appearance

Fitness 10 ways to keep your motivation to exercise

Fitness vivs 8 hot proven tips to keep your motivation foolproof part 1

Fitness vivs hot proven tips to keep your motivation foolproof part 2

Paralympics inspiration how to turn from ordinary to extraordinary

 

What is NOW your next step then?

I hope you agree with me that things just don’t happen out of the blue, well sometimes they do but most of the time they don’t…which means that to make things happen we need to take full responsibility and control over our lives …Thinking alone without ACTION will not take you anywhere and will not work! Speaking with many, I have noticed that only when people prepare, they achieve the desired results and goals.

What about you?

What is your next step to achieve your goals?

What actions have you already put into place?

What resources have you got to take you nearer to achieving your goal?

What obstacles do you need to conquer in the way?

What rewards are in place to celebrate your achievements?

What punishments are in place to stop you from deviate from achieving your goal and stick to your action plan?

The above were a few questions that I have asked myself after the Paralympics closing ceremony last Sunday. This was done entirely to ensure that I was prepared not only physically but more importantly mentally and emotionally to keep the momentum going. ‘He who has a why to live can bear almost any how! ~ Fredrick Nietzsche. I personally want to make these events a milestone in my life to be memorable and to be remembered not only because they took place in my beautiful London but above all because they left a personal and special impact on my life to enable me to be motivated and inspired to take actions to be a better me and to improve the quality of my life and others.

 

What impact did the Olympic and Paralympic Games have on you?

What actions did you take as a result of the motivation and inspiration of the Games?

What changes did you make as a result of the motivation and inspiration of these Games?

Did they impact your life in a personal way?  If this is the case, how can they be memorable for you to leave a legacy in your future generation?

Only if you answer honestly to the above questions, you will know if they have been memorable and left a mark in your life! Remember, it is never too late to get started! :) Even if others give up on you, never give up on yourself. You hold the strength, power and determination to thrive and you owe it to yourself!

Just remember that the most dangerous risk of all in life is spending it not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later! As if you really want to do something, you will find a way, if you don’t, you will find an excuse! ‘Pain doesn’t tell you when you ought to stop. Pain is the little voice in your head that tries to hold you back because it knows if you continue you will change. Don’t let it stop you from being who you can be. Exhaustion tells you when you ought to stop. You only reach your limit when you can go no further‘ ~ Kobe

 

Make the athletes you have seen during the games proud of their achievements. Be inspired and motivated to do what you want to do in life and achieve it to the highest of your ability!  Sir Richard Branson: ‘There is no greater thing you can do with your life and your work than follow your passions in a way that serves the world and you!’.

You know that it is only what you are going to do after you read this article that can make a difference in your life. You need to take action now and keep the Olympic and Paralympic momentum going! :)

As you know, I started to write these articles to inspire people to achieve their goals. I have had some awesome and fantastic feedback on how individuals are inspired and it continues to motivate me to continue writing. I would love to increase my reach so if you feel someone you know could benefit please send them my link and get them to add their email address on the bottom right hand corner of the screen so that they are notified every time I post a new blog. I also would love to share your success stories!

To your continued Success!

Viv :)

Paralympics inspiration: How to turn from ordinary to extraordinary

Hope my article finds you all well! :)

Yesterday, I had the chance to watch the Paralympics as I waited to be seen by someone for a meeting. I was so inspired by it! Usually when you have to speak to someone and you wait for months to have an appointment, you feel a bit uncomfortable especially the waiting time from your arrival in their premises to the time you will be speaking and I can tell you that I had to wait for nearly 5 hours, now I know why they say that ‘Patience is a virtue’ which obviously I don’t have. Watching the Paralympics made the time fly by, it’s  rare I’m sitting in front of the screen that long, in fact I could not remember the last time it happened! The two games on yesterday afternoon were basketball and tennis. Both were played by players on wheelchairs. Watching them play sprang some important questions to mind:

What would I have done if I lost the use of my legs, my arms or any other part of my body?

How would I use my day and my time?

What mind-set would I be in? Positive or negative? Would I be looking for opportunity for me to excel or opportunity for me to blame others for my condition?

What would I have accomplished in my life if I was disabled?

I have to admit that these were quite deep questions to be asking myself, especially before an important meeting. The time spent in reflection actually allowed me to put things into perspective and calmed me down… A strange feeling for me as I’m usually in the state of controlled panic or fear, as I’m always pushing myself out of my comfort zone…

Do you want to find out how my meeting went? Well honestly speaking, I was too relaxed for a meeting it was nearly like we were paly paly mates and some weird subjects came out from the conversation (don’t think wrongly, it was just strange and unexpected to be speaking about my bro in that meeting!). Obviously I did not give my 100% but I believe that there is a reason for everything that happens in life and therefore I will happily invite the result of this one soon enough! :)

The most amazing thing that I have noticed while watching the Paralympics is their use of skills and talents to win the games even if these are different from what people usually expect i.e. I have always been told that I was too short to become a good basketball player during my school years (good thing I did not listen to them, as even if they were right about my height I compensated this gap with my running skills :)). The players in the these games are not just disadvantaged by their height but many other setbacks too. How do they still play exceptionally well and achieve this level of athleticism? I’m sure many people who see athletes or other successful types achieving great accomplishments immediately believe it all must be down to natural talent. Is this really the case? In my opinion I believe this is the biggest excuse we can tell ourselves when we don’t want to face our own challenges. Think about it, how is it possible for them to be naturally talented given that some will have become disabled along the way. Some also have only been competing for the last few years. Natural talent cannot be the only determining factor here.

What is their secret?

The true reality is that they have a very strong mind-set and mental metal of not wanting to give up life and their goals… just imagine for a second you were training for sport at the highest level, then life hits you hard with a serious injury. Most would give in, imagine playing tennis with no legs? Not for these athletes, they won’t let life take the best of them and ensure that they stay in control. They work hard to be the best and do the best with what they have. Determination, discipline and dedication is what really makes these people achievers in life!

So ask yourself the question:

Are you giving yourself the excuse that you don’t possess any natural talent or do you believe you can get what you want by applying the Paralympic do or die mind-set?

I have to admit that often people tell me that I am special. That I was born talented. However I see myself as ordinary with no talents in any area of my life. I have always just tried hard at everything I do, it reminds me of this quote I recently found, “I’ve never really viewed myself as particularly talented. Where I excel is ridiculous, sickening work ethic. You know. While the other guy’s sleeping, I’m working. While the other guy is eating, I’m working.“~ Will Smith. I fully agree with this quote as most of the successful people that I know, myself included don’t see ourselves as talented but instead hard working. All successes, I have personally achieved until now are due to perseverance, determination, dedication, commitment, hard work, a strong mental metal of not giving up, and finally making it all happen by taking prompt actions! There’s nothing special about me just a lot of determination and persistency to achieve my goals by acquiring the skills I need to fulfil them! That’s not a secret, is it? Last week, I have mentioned and included an article written by a very inspirational friend of my bros. It’s all about this subject and if you have not read it yet, you will certainly be blown away. :) Here is the link: What Does Rocky and a Trader Have in Common?

A few questions at this moment come to mind I wish to share with you:

What about us? What are the excuses we are telling ourselves to sabotage our success?

Are we giving in to what the stereotype world dictate we need to be to become successful and accomplished?

Do we tolerate and become influenced by other people’s opinions of what we should or shouldn’t do to achieve our goals and live our lives to the fullest?

Are we playing our life games according to other people’s rules and expectations?

Are we really using all of our skills and talents to play out our life to the fullest?

It saddens me to see in reality most of our abilities, skills and talents all end up unexploited. We spend our life contemplating what we wish for and we spend even more time dreaming of it whilst telling ourselves so many excuses why we can’t get the life we envision in our mind. To be honest, most of us are not prepared to live outside our comfort zone and put the hard work and dedication to achieving our goals. If you really want to live to your potential don’t wish for it work for it! On this note, my bro just wrote an article on the benefits of making mistakes. I invite you to read it. Here is the link: If You Are Not Making Mistakes Try Harder. It is funny that I had a conversation with him yesterday with not an happy ending and I wasn’t expecting he was going to write an article on making mistakes! I guess and I hope in this case, my bro is prepared to forgive or understand me as I make so many mistakes with him and add to his life a bit of spicy to make him feel uncomfortable as he likes it. :) As he wrote on his blog: ‘Successful people are always pushing themselves outside their comfort zone in order to progress. Inevitably, working at this high level, we are prone to mistakes. However as I have mentioned before, mistakes are a wonderful way, perhaps the only way, to learn, evolve and develop. So if you are not making mistakes, and living in your comfort zone then you simply need to push yourself harder. A clear sign that you are building the right mindset for success is that you should ironically become uncomfortable being comfortable. I go stir crazy when my life is comfortable. This drives me to taking on more challenging projects, pushing myself further and further outside my comfort zone and never settling for average.’

Watching the Paralympics, definitely opened up new perspectives to me! Watching these athletes made me think all of them are winners and I hope you agree with me that all of them deserve a gold medal for their incredible and amazing mind-set to overcome what life throws at them. They most certainly have gone from ordinary to extraordinary!

 

‘Next time you’re stressed, take a step back, inhale and laugh. Remember who you are and why you’re here. You’re never given anything in this world that you can’t handle. Be strong, be flexible, love yourself and love others. Always remember, just keep moving forward.’

 

‘Will you look back in life and say: ‘I wish I had’ or ‘I’m glad I did’?’ – Zig Ziglar

To being inspired in taking action now to achieve your successes!

Viv :)

What are your learning curves from the past months? Part 2

A very good morning to all my readers,

I want to open my article with a big THANK you to all of you and for your wonderful feedback, emails and texts received over the past months. They were really encouraging and I felt uplifted, thank you from the bottom of my heart! Also a big THANKS for reading my bro’s blog, it made a really great surprise for his special day!  :-)

As you can recognise from the title, it is time again for reflection!

How are you doing with achieving your goals set last January? Are you on track, behind or ahead?

It’s good sometimes to do a revision exercise to analyse where we are in life, where we want to be and what steps will take us there! It’s important to ensure that we obtain what we really want in life and don’t settle for less!!! Maybe for some of you, it’s action time! It’s definitely for me, I have realised that this year has been a very different one from my previous ones! I can describe it with only one word: WAITING! A quote that summaries this concept well is this one: ‘We only regret the chances we didn’t take, relationships we were afraid to have and the decisions we waited too long to make’. That is so true! Every goal that I have not yet achieved this year has only one common denominator: I was waiting for someone (sadly it was the same person all the time) or for the perfect occasion (again the same person was involved)! To be honest, I am quite annoyed with myself! Now that I am aware of what has slowed me down from achieving my goals I can overcome it!

I will share with you what I have personally learnt in the last four months. Please feel free to comment and to share your own lessons too! :-)

Before I start, please take your time to answer the questions below, don’t rush and above all be honest with yourself if you want to achieve personal growth and become a better you!  This is one of the most important times you can dedicate to achieving your goals and ultimately your life successes! Once you have discovered your lessons, please feel free to compare them with mine…let me know how many we have in common, I would love to share your journey…

Ready to answer these questions?

What have you learned from your past months?

What lessons did you gather?

How did you benefit from them?

What could you have changed to improve your performance and results?

What three actions can you take to get nearer to your goal and be successful?

Now that you have gathered your lessons, please read what I have learned…Don’t forget to compare it and let me know how many we have in common…

Here are my learning pointers for the past months:

Stay focused:  we live in a world where we are bombarded by information, knowledge, adverts, etc and as far as all these are useful advantages to our life in the long run, if left unchecked, they become a distraction. As an example I was coaching someone a few weeks ago and we were working on time management (this is recently becoming a regular topic in my coaching sessions). When I asked what was using the majority of the client’s time, the response was surfing the internet. You research one topic and suddenly you start surfing ten other ones connected to it! Clearly this demonstrates that we need to focus on our goals to achieve them. There are so many things that can easily distract us especially if we have short attention spans!

A great way to visualise focus is to think of horse blinkers. The flaps that prevent the horse from looking anywhere but straight ahead. It’s important we learn to use our own blinkers to keep us focused on a day to day basis, and I’m not talking literally!

What takes most of your time during the day or week?

What are your eye blinkers to keep you focused?

What actions can you take to help you stay focused on your goals?

The honest answers to the questions above, will speed up your progress in achieving your goals and your successes!

Unwavering Clarity & Self-Awareness: the more I self-reflect the more I realise how much I owe my success primary to my clarity in what I wanted to do in my life. Since the age of 6 I have had a vision and dreams of where I wanted to be and what I wanted to do. It is so amazing to see them all come to reality. This was all the result of focus and determination to keep going even when others were obstructing me. I believe the most difficult lesson was to be disciplined, you see I always go for what people dared not to do. Every time someone tells me “this task will be very difficult to master,” these are the magic words to make me want to take it on! Yes, challenges are what make me accomplish my goals and plans!

What is your activator bar?

What makes you act no matter how big the goal is?

This is one of your strengths, if you have self-awareness of who you are, you can use it to your advantage. For example when you do not feel motivated to do something, you can change your mind-set and perceive things in a way that will encourage you to take action. This is a very powerful tool and technique to know!

How can you acquire more clarity and self-awareness?

 

What are your values and beliefs?

 

What are your strengths and weaknesses?

What are the reasons of making your choices and decisions in your life?

Are you making a conscious decision or an unconscious reaction?

 

The honest answers to the above questions will provide you with a better understanding of who you are and what you want from your life. Consequently you will take action accordingly to achieve your goals and your success! Just remember that your happiness and success in life comes from clarity as to who you are. As you become more aware of yourself and feel more comfortable in your own skin, other people will be drawn to you and bring you greater opportunity!

For more details, see my previous articles on Ready to find your light bulb, Ready for your SWOT analysis and The 3’C’s in Succcess! Here are the links:

Ready To Find Your Light Bulb moment?

Ready For Your Swot Analysis?

The 3 ‘C’s in Succcess,

 

Confidence: you need to have a certain degree of confidence to achieve your goals and become successful. Without it you will find it difficult to take action and move forward. To back up this point, I have coached numerous people and believe me the common denominator of not taking action was lack of confidence. Is it true that if you don’t believe in someone and/or in a strategy as human beings we won’t take any action? Think about your everyday life i.e. where do you buy your clothes? your shoes? where do you take your things for repair? who do you choose to make business with? Is it not someone who you really trust and have proven worthy of our confidence? I am sure you agree with me!

What does it mean to be a confident person?

What does having a lack of confidence cost you on a daily basis?

How can we increase our level of confidence firstly in ourselves and in others?

What actions can you take to boost your confidence?

To understand the importance of having confidence, I came across this inspiring quote:

“Experience tells you what to do; confidence allows you to do it.” ~ Stan Smith

Even if we’re reasonably assured most of the time, it is beneficial to do a little mental strengthening check up every now and then. It feels good to be confident, which in turn perpetuates further confidence, impresses people and brings you success.

 

In my previous articles, I have shared 5 ways to increase your confidence which are: Get to know who we are and what we want out of life, face our fears, prepare, take action and realise that failure or being wrong would not harm you. For more details, please read my articles On Becoming Unstoppable & Becoming Unstoppable Part 2! Here are the two links:

 

Becoming Unstoppable

Becoming Unstoppable Part 2

 

Consistent preparation and developing a Positive Mind-set: “One important key to success is confidence. An important key to confidence is preparation.”  ~ Arthur Ashe “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” ~ Benjamin Franklin

 

Have you ever experienced the situation where you are undertaking something new and noticed how you very quickly get lost in thoughts and actions?

You start building ‘what if’ scenarios in your mind of what may happen.

Definitely, preparing and educating ourselves can be a big help in making a huge difference in our confidence levels but we need to take the time to prepare ourselves. Obviously, this is more work than not doing anything about it. For example by rehearsing and rewriting our speech over and over again, we can learn it by heart. By doing research we can find breathing techniques that can quickly make us calmer and more confident as we deliver our speech.

Preparation is the key to feeling more comfortable and confident. Just don’t make the mistake of getting stuck in the preparation phase and using it as a way to avoid taking action and the possible pain that it may lead to. As for me, I knew that if I wanted to be successful I needed to be prepared for any eventuality, ensuring that I didn’t miss out on any opportunities! This is the hardest skill to work on as we often prepare based on previous knowledge of people, situations, events, etc. but sometimes there is the surprise effect – something unexpected comes up and we ask ourselves questions such as: What do I do now? What do I say?

 

How can you prepare for it?

What is the best behaviour in surprise effect situations?

What provides you with the best edge?

Not an easy scenario to face is it? Sometimes, because we are not prepared for unexpected situations, we miss out on big opportunity in life! In order to have an edge we need to ensure that we prepare for the predictable and do our best when things get impulsive. Our confidence will grow overtime and we will learn to keep it cool even when we don’t know who we may meet or what might happen next.

Regarding having a positive mind-set that is a must! I have a very strong passion for mind-set and psychology, and so both are subjects I often like to talk about. I am a strong believer that your mind-set counts for more than 90%, if not 100% of life’s successes, in any field. If you don’t have the right state of mind and positivity, even a success could turn into a failure. I am sure that you know what I am talking about, as all of us have experienced it. We believe what we tell ourselves and it will make a huge difference when we focus on having a positive mind-set! We end up seeing opportunities where others see difficulties!

When faced with a challenging situation ask yourself the following questions to ensure you have a positive mind-set:

How can I benefit from this event, circumstance or occasion?

How can I use this event to my advantage?

What did I learn from it that will assist me for the better?

Exercise and healthy lifestyle: I learned this lesson at the expense of my own health. I have to admit that I have to thank my dear bro as he is an avid fan of the gym! So I could not stand the fact that he is so fit and healthy and I was not. Out of a challenge with myself, I decided that if he could be, I could be too.  Without any hesitation knowing that with hard work, determination, disciplined and persistence, I would be able to achieve my fitness goal, to be fit and toned! I felt like I went through an education program on how, what and when to eat, how to exercise, what muscles to exercise, what type of exercise to follow based on different needs, etc. I have to admit that I felt so ignorant when I first started and I often asked myself the reason why people do not know all this information. It was then that I realised how all this information can end up being contradictory, there is literally so many different opinions on the subject! I consider myself quite fortunate to have surrounded myself with qualified fitness individuals/coaches that were willing to share their information with me and above all help me understand what type of nutrition and exercises were the most effective for my objective. A big thank you to all of you and above all to my bro who got me started!  (just to say that he has a degree in Science)…I felt like Tommy was my dad when he was patiently and lovingly providing me with the answers to my questions and the tips on how to improve my performance! Thank you, much appreciated, Bro! :-)

So I learnt how important it is to exercise, eat healthy and sleep enough to be at the peak of your performance! Your body will appreciate it if you only listened to it!!! For more details, see my articles on fitness: How much can you tell from appearance? 10 ways to keep your motivation to exercise, and Viv’s hot proven tips to keep your motivation fool-proof! Part 1 and Part 2. Here are the links:

Fitness: How Much Can You Tell From Appearance?

Fitness 10 Ways to Keep Your Motivation to Exercise?

Fitness Vivs 8 Hot Proven Tips to Keep Your Motivation Foolproof Part 1

Fitness Vivs 8 Hot Proven Tips to Keep Your Motivation Foolproof Part 2

 

Skills of leverage & delegation: Another important lesson was when I learnt the true meaning of the words delegation and leverage! What a relief it was! Even until now, I can’t believe how much I could have accomplished if I had learnt to delegate and leverage earlier in my life. This is particularly true when I was working in the corporate world! Later is better than never as some say! What stopped me was something called perfectionism, some of you may have experienced it! Only when you realise that perfection is relative and not absolute, will you start to delegate  others. Obviously if your standards are high, at the beginning everything will appear less than adequate to you. However, I can guarantee that one day, someone will impress you with their job and you will start to delegate more and more. You will understand how much time, resources and efforts you will save!

A very recent lesson that I learnt is regarding networking! Let’s just say that it is not my cup of tea! Most people that know me may be surprised to read this, as I am always at events, smiling and engaging everyone I meet!  The lesson that I learnt was that people usually go to networking events to find potential clients for their business by collecting as many contacts as possible, I do not! I usually leave with a maximum of two or three business cards of people that I have spent most of the time talking to! So when we contact each other we will already have good memory of who the other person is and what we spoke about. This way we have a lower chance of mixing people up and ending up getting embarrassed. You know what I am talking about, don’t you? I believe that quality is more important than quantity! Another reason is that I do not look for clients during the events but I look for potential joint ventures instead. This works to help leverage each other strengths, time and resources! It also helps you gain some support and guidance from influent people during your journey. Clever idea, isn’t it?

See my article on 5 Steps to Effective Delegation for more details. Here is the link:

5 Steps to Effective Delegation

Surround yourself with a positive circle of influence and role models to learn from: here comes the beautiful concept of modelling. This is an NLP concept that is vastly well known. You need to learn from others who have walked the path before you, it is called ‘standing on the shoulders of giants’. Modelling is highly valued and it makes sense to copy someone who has already achieved what we want to accomplish as I did with my dear Bro! This allows us to achieve our success in the fastest and most efficient way possible.

Who are the people who have already achieved this result in the past?

How can you model them to the best of your abilities?

How can you establish a relationship with your role models?

How can you add value to them?

To have role models will add a new dimension to your life, you will see faster results with the minimum use of your resources as you learn to work in the smartest way possible! I can definitely guarantee this! Obviously to keep the momentum going, you need to surround yourself with a positive circle of influence such as like minded individuals who share the same goals and aspirations as you do. This means that when you are facing tough challenges, they will be there to raise your spirits and encourage you to keep going.

For more details see my articles on Circle of Influence: ‘What does it tell you about yourself’ & ‘How does it affect your life’. Here are the links:

Your Circle of Influence What Does it Tell You About Yourself?

Your Circle of Influence How Does it Affect Your Life?

Above are my main lessons that I have learnt in the past months. To be honest, when I sat down to write this article, I could not think of anything of value I could give to you. For some reason which I am still not sure about, I did not want to look back into my past (that’s very unusual of me as through analysing your past experiences you learn the lessons of your life). Until I read one of my bro’s mate’s article titled ‘What does Rocky and a Trader have in common? A real rags to riches story…’ as you can guess, he is a financial market trader.  It really inspired me, all my learning lessons flew into my mind and I could not stop to write them…Most probably because the article highlighted the life experience of Rocky who inspired me since I was a child – maybe now it’s clearer where I get all my determination from. I invite you to read his inspiring article in full here: What Does Rocky and a Trader Have in Common?.

So, have you compared your learning lessons with mine? How many do we have in common?

Please let me know as I would love to share yours and learn from them. It will be very interesting and amazing to see your different perspectives of life!

Have you noticed again what is the acronym of my learning lessons? Let me know if you do!

After self-reflecting I hope you can see to get the best out of every event, circumstance, emotions, etc. which occur in our lives, we need to approach them with a positive mind-set. We need to ask ourselves the magical and powerful question:

What have I learned from my experiences?

 

Remember to take notes and put them into practice as every third of the year, I will write my own ones and you will have them ready to compare them with mine. Perhaps more importantly this will give more meaning to your experiences and to live your life to the full! As always, this is the beauty of life, it leaves something to learn from to enhance and enrich our future! “We come this way but once. We can either tiptoe through life and hope that we get to death without being too badly bruised or we can live a full, complete life achieving our goals and realising our wildest dreams.’ Bob Proctor

To your learning lessons which lead to your success!

Viv :-)